Beauty as a pride

The video called “Killing Us Softly” by jean Killborne was interesting for me. However, what caught my interests was the view she put together to portrait mostly women as decorative objects not human beings. In her video she discussed one of the most important agents of socialization “The Media”. The Media is taking over our lives that many of us cannot control it because the roles played in it are bigger than us in general. Because this so called Agent of socialization is so powerful that it is almost harming us without knowing.  Jean explained how women learn the value of beauty at an early age by becoming beautiful at all cost. I mean many of these women tend to think that beauty is all about being thin or white to become attracted to the men around them. However, what she was more focused on was the health problems surrounding this “Beauty” ideal. She also added that among these women on either the advertisement or real life tend to lack of self-esteem if they happen to fail to become beautiful as they portrait it shiny or thin. Jean as well emphases that Men are mostly not judged by their body images than women, because the stereotypes are different. The way men are viewed in our society is different to how women are viewed. Further, jean goes on to clarifying that these women may go through depression and eating disorders as a result of becoming too thin to fit in the category of beauty. Being said that she also claimed that the norms are been changed which is also affecting the public health as beauty changing the environment.

I definitely I agree with Jean’s video and what she said in the video about women being sexual seeing as objects rather than human beings. I admit that the world has changed to the extents that every person wants to be on the top which is impossible to me, because one can only be the best at a certain time. Like in the article “Retro Wife” describes how women are nowadays embarking on a journey of taking men’s position as the Bread Winner than men typically do as society and culture demand. It’s also mentioned how women are good when it comes to nurturing their kids than would men do, because there is bound that connects a mother and a child biologically. However there are other women too who do not care for their children due to several reasons, I guess.  Whereas there are good fathers out there doing just fine as nurturing their kids than a mother would have done it. So, in this case I think both parent can play a role in this particular case. Moreover, I see all these in the sense of values, Beliefs, and norms associated within our society.

 

this shows how some males are dominant over the others.

All of them almost have the same weight.

 

 

 

 

As I was reading the article “Parent’s Socialization of children” I directly saw the category where own parents stand at. The article presented three types of parenting, authoritative, permissive, and authoritarian parenting. In my own view my parents are authoritarian parents. The demand obedience from us and impose their rules that we should follow in order to avoid punishment. However, my parents were applied this type of parenthood because of our culture and the religion we practice. They expect us to behave as well as one can imagine to avoiding breaking the norms. Even though, my parents were little forcible but we the kids have benefited from it because we respect our elders and have no issue with outsiders and even mood. Although, it says that children of authoritarian parents tend to be fearful, moody, aimless, unhappy, etc. However, this is not in our case. We are very happy for the fact that our parents did enforce their power of parenting on us. I must admit if they had not parented us in this manner many things would have gone wrong in my family. This is why I am saying that parenting is associated with religion and culture. We knew this was what our culture and the authority in our religion expect our parents to raise us. Therefore, we didn’t question it or objected it. As the article implied, society expect parents to take full responsibilities to nurture their children.   

I did enjoyed reading the articles and watching the video.  I found all these connected in some way around to the chapter and the class discussions we have been doing lately in class. It is true, that when we experience more things your identity change as you move from one place to the next. Socialization is very crucial in our life because we all have rite of passages that are unique for every individual which also tend to shape our life based on the norms, beliefs, and values. Women having their sense of self about beauty is alarming nowadays one should love and appreciate what he/her has as a gift. Trying to objectify yourself can lead a person into serious effects.